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Post by Inferno on Feb 12, 2008 8:52:58 GMT -5
Everyone's had at least one story about something they've done and felt like crap afterwards.
Here's mine..
I'm on IMVU(DeadNinjaBoy, look me up) and I was talking to someone who is actually one of the most interesting people I've met there. It's very rare to meet someone who's actually strange, in a good way, and not just someone who acts strange. Anyway, I told her an incredibly sad story that she couldn't handle, and she went offline to cut herself up. >.< I'm still mad at myself over this.
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Post by Graveyard Goddess on Feb 12, 2008 13:48:14 GMT -5
how horrible. ive had similiar things happen. i did the exact same thing. I told a guy i was friends with something really bad becuase i thought he could sorta help me get through it, but i later found out he went out got REALLY drunk and hurt himself. Over time we grew distant and we dont talk anymore as he no longer has a computer and his phone number isnt the same. Ive been on the other side of this too...I found that the more time i spent chatting online to certain people the more depressed I got,that is becuase I am very empathic and things really effect me in that sort of way. I also found myself becomign very attached and hurt myself becuase of things other people went through. its hard but remind yourself that this is not your fault. you thought shed be ok hearing your story. next time shes online chat with her about this and explain to her that in the future this cant happen again. if she says shes going to cut herself, tell her you want to talk longer and try to get her mind off self harm. it can be really draining blaming yourself for others, i know this from personal experience. im sorry i cant give much advice, but hope it blows over and things get better.  |
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Post by Inferno on Feb 12, 2008 18:23:31 GMT -5
I'm very empathic too, I can't hear about someone's problems without wanting to do my best to help, and you're right it does take a lot out of you, I went through a period of bad news and more bad news and I looked half dead by the end of it. I can't make myself stop caring, but I'm getting better at coping with the stress and I've learned to take time for myself now and then since then I've stopped having emotional breakdowns.
I did talk to her again, she was as apologetic as I was, and fortunately she didn't cut bad.
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Post by Inferno on Feb 12, 2008 18:26:22 GMT -5
I'm very empathic too, I can't hear about someone's problems without wanting to do my best to help, and you're right it does take a lot out of you, I went through a period of bad news and more bad news and I looked half dead by the end of it. I can't make myself stop caring, but I'm getting better at coping with the stress and I've learned to take time for myself now and then, which has stopped me from having emotional breakdowns. Also things have been looking up for the last few days.  I did talk to her again, she was as apologetic as I was, and fortunately she didn't cut bad. |
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Post by Graveyard Goddess on Feb 12, 2008 20:18:00 GMT -5
well thats good. i hope things are looking a little bit better since when you last posted.  |
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Post by foblin on Feb 13, 2008 15:37:28 GMT -5
i've had that too. again on both sides but mostly from other people telling me their problems and i get too worried XD but if i upset someone else i always get upset for upsetting them....unless it's because they did something bad and i had a go at them. and they deserved it.
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Post by Inferno on Feb 13, 2008 19:27:31 GMT -5
I know people who've gone through horrible situations, and their biggest fear seemed to be that they would make someone worry about them. They even felt guilty about it.
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Post by Graveyard Goddess on May 21, 2008 21:03:59 GMT -5
i've had that too. again on both sides but mostly from other people telling me their problems and i get too worried XD but if i upset someone else i always get upset for upsetting them....unless it's because they did something bad and i had a go at them. and they deserved it. same here foblin im exactly the same.  |
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Post by Graveyard Goddess on May 21, 2008 21:31:13 GMT -5
i've had that too. again on both sides but mostly from other people telling me their problems and i get too worried XD but if i upset someone else i always get upset for upsetting them....unless it's because they did something bad and i had a go at them. and they deserved it. same here foblin im exactly the same. |
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