wow, never knew

[lostsoul]

I don't really know if this thread would be considered triggering or not but...
Wow, I know I'M new here and haven't been here for very long. I've been reading these messeges in this thread (trigger ones) and I can't help notice a lot of you are really depressed. I'm not sure if this is how you feel all the time or you post these only when something goes bad and you're upset.
However, if you feel like this all the time, depressed and like you don't belong here, you should go see a doctor. Now I'm not trying to tell anybody what to do, but it seems to me their are problems deeper than we here realize and if thats the case, it should be seen by a professional.
Feel free to correct me on anything that is said here, I'm not being mean or anything but i feel concerned about everyone that is posting these depressing threads. I'm just that kinda person. I care for everyone, whether i know you or not!!!
I know it feels better to let it all out, and thats good that most of you are doing this. I know I feel better after writting down how I feel, and believe me, i can probably write a book on my growing up and make everyone cry as they read it.

[7236]

you are absolutely right and i agree with you completely.

[Graveyard Goddess]

I think youve got a point, but this is particularly the place to "let it all out" in addition i think it just happens to be that many of us are into the darker aspects of life...or somthing like that.

Me personally; yes im depressed, somtimes misrable but sometimes fine. My mum says I am the cause of my sadness and dont want to be happy...but i do...sometimes ones goals in life just seem so impossible to reach...


For me its all about
Hormones,Low Self Esteem, self doubt, self hate, no confidence ect, Lack of venting outlets,Just lifes challanges,life, family (and people that affect us),Stress, Avoidence, my many fears in life,Listening to depressing or angry music (It hurts me to admit this),General fascination about death,Self Medication, everything from something as simply as dissosating from the world as escaping, to self injury, eating disorders, loads of stuff...sometimes it just feels better to see that others have it the same as you...a doctor nodding and writing things down isnt always enough for me at least....
Anyhow in response to your feelings bout this; I see and appreciate your concerns as im sure everyone else does too
Still I think it is good to have an outlet and people to vent to that can give feedback. Im sure many of us do have doctors. Im on two different anti depressents go to therapy and get sent to random neurologists...
and im still sad a lot. I still dont a social life(in person), I have problems at The Cemetary and with loads of other stuff. I think posting helps me...
I dont think seeing a doctor should be an alternative for posting here by any means...
sometimes doctors dont know shit....sometimes they just shove pills in your face and have you off, but what really will help is a hug or note from someone who cares about YOU not about thier paycheck. Just a personal opinion. Anyhow I hope Im not coming across anything other than friendly >.< im just voicing my opinion and thank you for posting this concern, becuase I do agree to an extent, but I appreciate it 100% hehe

[Graveyard Goddess]

Anyhow Ange, with me... my depression isnt my personality. I am fun and silly and a thinker and love music and my dolls and stuff...I just happen to have some dark thoughts. I hope you still stick around here

[sereneinsanity]

well, i would just like to point out that i have been seen by quite a few professionals, but they really didnt help me much. it always seemed like they were just there to judge. it may have just been the ones i ended up going to. i already have a hard time expressing myself to people, i really tried. but after the third one, it just seemed pointless. it just made me hate my mother more for subjecting me to it. i know i have issues, but i found the thing that helped me most were the people at my job. i work in a hospital, certain patients really touched me but especially the ones in the oaks, the mental facility. I work inside the facility from time to time and got to know the patients. i found myself sitting and talking to them on my breaks. those are the people that really affected me, that helped me. not a bunch of so called professionals sitting in a leather chair acting like they actually care.

i just wanted you to see my point of view. i love how you expressed you opinion without seeming judgemental. you seem like a person worth taking time to get to know.


*hugs*

stacey

[lostsoul]

I'm here to stay, and i'm glad a lot of you agree on what I said. After reading all the replys, it got me thinking also. It's true a lot of doctors don't really listen or understand and all they seem to want to do is give meds and then your out of there.

After reading a lot of these posts too and after I placed my post, I sat down and thought about MY life and how it was when I was a teen, I can relate to a lot of you girls, but never really gave it some thought. I guess we all go through it, some people do need meds but maybe others don't.

I went through a lot of time being depressed as a teen, now that I'm the adult with kids I still get depressed at times and it lasts for sometimes days. I've never went to the doctor about it cause I thought I'd be wasting their time, that they would tell me to go home you'll get over it.

sereneinsanity, I'm a very open minded person and hate seeing kids and teenagers in any kind of trouble or hurt. I'm a mom myself, maybe thats why I'm so sensitive to these type of things. I've seen too many adults abuse kids instead of sitting down and talking to them to find out whats wrong with thier child.

In my opinon, most adults (parents) forgot they were once teens and had problems themselves. So they figure the teens of today shouldn't get upset over silly little things. Some adults who have kids these days get me so mad I can scream.

[Graveyard Goddess]

^ well said! thank you ...i agree
wink

[sybil4insane]

lost_ soul! you are very very wise!

I completely agree with all that you have said. Sure I get confused and fret about at times but then again I try my hardest not to be upset all the time. I took me several years to be happy that I am now. I relapse at times and at times I swear Iwill need to see a professional. I have ADD but I was never on medicane. so I have learned to keep it under control. Its great that you will lend a shoulder for us to talk to. ;D

[lostsoul]

Thank you!! I'll always be hear to lend an ear, and help if i can.

[forgottenshadow]

Lost soul. I agree with you in some aspects. If there are things wrong you definitely need to talk about it. You just need the right person to talk to. Doctors don't always help though. Or psychiatrists. I'm 14 and was told that I had mild depression 2 years ago. This time last year I was actually diagnosed with major depression. All at the same time I was seeing my doctor, 1 councellor and 2 psychiatrists.. only one of them ever helped. Being so young, and seeing so many people at once, I felt like a lost cause, it only ever made things worse for me.
They all just try and judge you.. and tell you that all these things are wrong with you. They may be, or they may not be, but it's always fairly obvious which one it is. Everyone could see my depression, so it's the only reason I believed the doctor.. a few months later she tried telling me I'm on my way to anorexia. Thats something I don't believe. I'm no where near skinny enough. But she still thinks I have an eating disorder, and my mum and sister agree. But I don't.
But back to my point. Doctors, friends, whoever you speak to, might not always be right. Only you know what is truly wrong with you. Someone might go through the same thing as you, but it depends on how strong we are, to see how greatly we are affected. And it also depends on how far the situation had gone before it ended, to see how bad we are affected.

Oh, and in case you're thinking it, I don't want your sympathy. I just told you that so you could see why I have the opinion that I do. This is life. We all suffer it, so why should you pity me? I don't want it. Everyone else comes first. Even if I don't know them.

[lostsoul]

You make a very good point there Forgottenshadow. I agree with you too. I'm not here to give pity to anyone or judge anyone, it's not my place to do so. I'm open to give advise if anyone wants it and just to talk to.

[wingedgothgrl]

To me life is painful...suffering is optional. People are about as happy as they make up their minds to be and I say this after YEARS of seeing shrinks and specialists and rubbish like that. I wasn't abused and I have WONDERFUL parents who loved me like crazy and sacrificed everything so my sister and I could grow up happy and unconcerned. But I was a totally depressed child at school and as a teenager I was more so. But I grew up and grew out of that cycle. I learned that ALL my experiences, bad & good, shaped who I am and I like me. Even the awful crap I went thru in my life and losing people that I loved, I thought my life was ending. I tried to take my own life when I was 15 over something so trivial. Then I had a sudden realization. That everyday I had the ability to make my life what I wanted. I could manifest whatever is was I needed and that the universe would provide. That we all have choices and sometimes we let others make those choices for us. BUT THAT IS STILL OUR CHOICE. It's just easier to play the victim. I still look at my scars, although they are so faded with age that they're really only visable to me because I know that they are there. They still remind me of a choice I almost made and I thank the Mother daily that she gave me another chance. She only tests those who are worthy...I guess I got an A because my life is fabulous.

[tattoodvampyre]

its hard to distinguish whats depression and whats normal growing pains in teenagers.
the word depression is abused alot these days, ppl are always saying "oh im so depressed" when really they are just down or feeling low.
As a suffer of depression for the last 10 yrs, i know that depression is hard to live with but unless you are willing to look deep inside yourself and look for the real problem its not going to get better.
After many years of therapy i now know what it is thats triggers depression in me. I dont have a depressive personality, the "normal" me is funloving, fun to be around, up for anything and is michievous, the "depressed" me doesnt want to leave my flat, doesnt want to see or talk to anyone and sleeps all the time, in the past ive self harmed tho since jan this year i dont use that as an outlet anymore, i got a wake up call in jan and the situation i found myself in, has stopped me from doing that.
Ive been on meds for the past 6 yrs and before that was off them for around 5 yrs as i took all of them at once and wasnt allowed them anymore.
Depression technically is the brain missing a certain chemical "seratonin"
www.biopsychiatry.com/serotonin.htm

and meds should regulate that, but when its an emotional issue its harder to resolve and that will only come with alot of looking inside yourself.
Teenagers have it tough, they are trying to fit in, trying to work out who they are, and all through that they are growing up, and that is hard. Most ppl find their teenage years a breeze I did, apart from the usual pissing off my parents and dying my hair pink, my teenage years where fun but i was lucky i fitted in and knew who i was .

I think unless its a medical reason, young ppl should try to refrain from using the word depression to explain the way they feel, it wont be until you are older that you realise alot of it was only growing pains especially for those who find it hard to fit in and "conform" with their peers. Doctors are too quick to call it depression rather than talking to you are finiding out if its just normal teenage problems, they would rather give you meds than try and sort out the underlying problem.
Its quite the fashion now to be "depressed" and ppl use it as an excuse for being different etc.
Its also a well known fact that "creative" ppl are prone to suffer from depression.
I suffer from anxiety, depression and OCD, but each of those things vary from time to time, like for instance the past 5mths i have been the "normal" me which i havent been for the past 3 yrs, but in the last 3 mths the "depressed" me has returned and i find it hard to do things that others take for granted but i also know the reason as to why it has returned which makes it a little easier to deal with but doesnt make the symptons any the less real.
Depressed ppl cant function and that in itself causes the person to feel even worse.
A medically depressed person can be sorted with meds a emotionally depressed person cant be helped totally with meds they need counselling and lots of it but it took me a good few years and various psychologists before i found one that actually made a difference. And thats the key, you need to find some one who helps you,who doesnt just listen and jot down notes. But one who will help you through your thoughts and help you to work out where your problems are and how to try and sort them. Sometimes just talking about things that you have no one else to talk to about helps, sometimes you need to be helped on to a different road in your life. A good therapist helps you to find your way, they dont set you on a path but help stear you to that path through helping you over the obstacles that are in your path

[wingedgothgrl]

tattoodvampyre said:

its hard to distinguish whats depression and whats normal growing pains in teenagers.
the word depression is abused alot these days, ppl are always saying "oh im so depressed" when really they are just down or feeling low.

I think unless its a medical reason, young ppl should try to refrain from using the word depression to explain the way they feel, it wont be until you are older that you realise alot of it was only growing pains especially for those who find it hard to fit in and "conform" with their peers. Doctors are too quick to call it depression rather than talking to you are finiding out if its just normal teenage problems, they would rather give you meds than try and sort out the underlying problem.
Its quite the fashion now to be "depressed" and ppl use it as an excuse for being different etc.

I agree completely. I still have my moody days, don't get me wrong. I've suffered from anxiety and other such things my whole life. I am who I am, and I love to cry. I cry almost everyday. I always feel better after, it's very cleansing. Even a happy cry. But I also do things that help rid my mind and body of the things that could lead me into depression. They're like poisons to me and mt soul. I eat pretty well. NO JUNK FOOD!! I meditate...I look deep inside myself, I do Yoga, I listen to beautiful music. I write in my journal almost daily and have done since I was 12. You should see all my journals. I have loads. And then I go back and re-read my old entries. It all seems so trivial. Hindsight really is 20/20.
Even at 30 yrs old...I still see how trivial it all is...all these "problems" I seem to have. We all create our own heavens and our own hell's. But I've been off meds for a while, and I feel great w/o them. It's been about 2 years now. Life is good. I feel pretty blessed.

[lostsoul]

Tatoodvampyre, you made a very good point on depression and I agree with you on that. It made me think a while.